Day 23: Blog Suggestion: How You Found Out About What You Like?

I ran across something on Tumblr actually. It was a checklist. I saved it to my flash drive, printed it out & spent a day & a half filling it out. I talked to EW about it while I did it & He told me as I was doing it what He would & wouldn't do & what He did & did not like.

Before I found the checklist, I was talking to EW about what He was used to & what He expected. He said He didn't have any expectations. He was really happy when I found the checklist & He could go through it with me. Even as EW & I have talked over the last month, some of my limits have changed. I've thought about re-printing it & re-doing it & I just might so that EW & I can go through it together next weekend. 

Before I got into the lifestyle, I was as naive as the next "vanilla." I thought BDSM was all about pain & non-consent & always thought to myself "I could NEVER do that!" That had been all I was ever exposed to. The porn side of it. The side that didn't show the love, trust, appreciation & I knew nothing of it so, I was scared. When EW told me He was a Dom, I always thought I could never be with Him because that lifestyle scared me. I laugh now at how naive I was! 

I have learned so much since dating EW. I did research, I taught myself a lot, I started a Tumblr & followed others in the lifestyle, reading their advice & questions, I joined FetLife & talked to others in the community. I even met a slave & a Domme who went to school with me! I couldn't believe how normal these people's lives were! They had normal families, issues, KIDS! I figured after actually meeting them in person & realizing that their lives are just as normal as mine, I could be part of the lifestyle too. I have even learned when it's okay to be Little & when I have to be Big, thanks to Daddy. 

Now that I've educated myself, I know about the love, appreciation, respect & trust that goes into a DD/lg relationship & I am proud to call myself a Little